This was when JJ was three months old at my birthday barbeque. I can’t believe I organised a barbeque for my birthday when JJ was so little. I haven’t had a barbeque for ages and I’m seven years into this motherhood thing.
The fog after having a newborn had lifted for me one month earlier and I felt half human again. I’d lost all my baby weight and actually looked fairly good. He’d also started sleeping at night and, finally, during the day which helped enormously. I was hugely focused on getting him to sleep in those early months and it paid large dividends. I could take him to parties and put him to bed and not be worried about him waking up and never going back to sleep. If I couldn’t have done that then I would have had NO social life.
I do remember at this barbeque feeling really lacking socially. I’d been out of practise and had forgotten how to do small talk. Small talk is not one of my strong points anyway but I felt quite socially awkward and it wasn’t very nice.
It took a while, and a few more social outings, to regain some of that back. I wonder if I was alone in this or have any mothers who read this felt the same thing when they became mums for the first time?
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That’s a great photo of you both 🙂
It’s amazing how having a baby can scramble us girls’ brains; took me awhile to get back into small talk/social niceties after my first.
Thanks Jayne. I guess it’s fairly common to get back into the groove after a baby.
how adorable was JJ – and you too Jen.
You bounced back quickly by the sounds and looks of it .
I felt awkward too .
My small talk always revolved around answering questions on the “twins” this and that – At least it gave me something to babble about.
How cute is JJ???
I think I was lucky that a lot of my friends also had small children and/or babies when Boo was born, and we all small talked children!!!
Trish, you’re very kind. I think if I’d had twins I’d have been a mess for a lot longer than a couple of months.
M&B – some of my friends had kids at this stage and the ones who didn’t had no idea until they popped one out. I can remember being oblivious before I had JJ too. I also remember not wanting to always talk about little babies because I needed my escape.
Cute award of the year, great photo! Happy holidays, enjoy your family time.
Gorgeous photo! I still go through moments in particular social situations where I think “I have nothing to talk about but child related stuff.”
The great thing about me starting blogging this year and other social media type stuff means that I feel that I at least has some knowledge of this stuff and can input to these discussions!