First of all I’d really like to thank everyone who wished me a happy birthday. Bless you.
Second of all I’d really like to thank (this is starting to feel like an acceptance speech) everyone who commented yesterday about what I wrote about my son. It was written a bit in the heat of the moment which probably isn’t a good time to write anything when emotion is involved like this but I don’t regret it.
I’ve had more time to think about things and I think he does need some help with raising his self-esteem and so that’s what we’ll do.
I’m not the only one who goes through these hard times and emotions and shares them with the internet. The gorgeous Jeanie shares her monthly madness (I’m glad I wasn’t in the supermarket that day). Mel feels like a failure as a mum, but really she’s only human and she’s SO not a failure. Petite Anglaise feels like her daughter was kidnapped by aliens and, gasp, had to drag her daughter out of pre-school once by the coat sleeve. I got a feeling of deja vu reading that. Reading these posts, and similar ones, points out to me that there are so many common experiences we share and they don’t make us bad people.
I’m sure there’s lots happening in all our lives that nobody else finds out about unless we tell them or we blog about it. And more often than not when we do blog about it we get so much support from other bloggers which brings me back to my thanks. It’s overwhelming, that when you feel a bit overwhelmed, people can virtually reach out and comfort.
So to change the subject and share my good news. I was offered a six month secondment at my work and I’ve taken it. I’ll be implementing a customer relationship management database which is quite different from what I’m doing now but I’ve been looking for a change and this one landed in my lap. It came with a payrise too.
Congratulations re; your work situation!
Also, thanks very much for the comments you’ve given!
Congratulations on your job!! There is nothing like a little bit of challenge in the workplace to perk you up.
Hugs to you and your little boy – am off to check out your link – and thanks for mine. Remember people, Stupid People Special every 4 weeks at Sugarland!
You’re more than welcome. 😉
I love it when we bloggers share the important things like you shared yesterday – and I love the supportive comments that show up at times like that. It is so real. It is a shame we can’t find that kind of thing in our day to day lives – for many people that kind of support truly only present here online.
It is great to see women reaching out and supporting each other – it’s precisely the rationale for creating http://www.sphinxx.org to support women leaders. Sometimes actually asking for help is the hardest thing, and online communities are great for that. Women leaders in particular often feel the need to be so independent and resilient – to appear like the boys – that they often create walls. Great to see you working to the opposite extreme. Keep up the great work.
Jen Dalitz, sheEO
Megan over at Imaginif says
Jen congratulations on both the needed change and the pay rise. I have been dying of curiosity since you threw us a bone a fortnight ago about a change coming your way – I kept coming back in to see if you’d yet announced it.
And your son….I was over the top busy yesterday and didn’t have the opportunity to respond. I have come back today to offer you some motherly solace/child therapist help and to let you know that even my kids often say they hate me or that I am the worst mum in the world. It is a normal part of child development and their progression into analytical thinking – they may hate the things we do, just haven’t yet developed a framework of words for working out wtf they hate about us – it is so easy to just say, “I hate you because you are mean.”
And the talk about wanting to die – often at around age 4 to 7, children begin to realise that death and kill are concepts that do happen. The dog or cat or grand dad dies. The news said that someone else killed themselves. In a little ones mind they think that to make their immediate life better, they will die/kill themselves and wake up to things different. What they have no concept of yet is the permanency of death and the seeming psychopatholoy of saying, “I am going to kill myself”.
Anyway, it seems that things are on the improve. You know how to contact me by email if ever you need to. Do not hesitate Jen. I have been in your single Mum shoes Jen and I so wished that I had learnt that it is okay to lean on friends.
Working on self esteem issues and emotional intelligence is a great thing to do – for all kids. Our kids deserve to be the best we can help make them.
My thoughts are with you.