Today is a pupil free day which means of course that it’s not child free for me. It happens to be the one day during the working week that I don’t go to my paid job so I’ve got JJ at home with me this morning.
He’s been showing me the sort of behaviour that his after school carer has been experiencing – cheeky (not a nice cheeky), answering back, and generally not listening when asked to do or stop something.
At the supermarket apart from having a dummy spit because I wouldn’t buy him something he actually wasn’t too bad. I just switched off at this stage and ignored all the behaviour I didn’t like and found him sulking around corners.
At the checkout he was chatting to one of the girls we see fairly regularly there. He told her all about how naughty he’s been. I said, tell her what you missed out on doing today because you’ve been naughty this week. He proceeded to tell her and everyone else in the checkout queues who was around because he hasn’t got a quiet voice, that he missed out on seeing Santa at the Magic Cave this week because of his behaviour at after school care.
He knows he’s being naughty but is almost quite proud of it. I don’t know if it’s sinking in that he’s missing out on stuff he really wants to do because of his behaviour.
It’s a long – hard road.
It IS a long hard road Jen…with many twists and turns in it. But the thing to remember is…this is just a phase…it will pass. You’re doing right by him, and believe me JJ knows it. You will see the rewards from your hard work…truly you will.
perhaps he is also trying to make sense of an aspect of his situation,the world is a puzzling place to be.best of luck to him