This morning I went to see a counsellor. This is the first time I have ever done this and as work offer a service in this regard, with outside consultants, it was free so I thought I’d utilise this work perk. I had no idea what to expect and wasn’t even sure what I wanted to bring up. So of course the first thing she brought up was why was I there? I started babbling on, while starting to cry, about the work/life balance and how hard I was finding it as a single mum. I was quite appalled that I turned into a sook as soon as we started talking but quickly got over the lip quivering. We ended up talking about three main things:
1 Finding time for myself and not feeling guilty about it
2 Finding a ‘true love’ and not settling for second best
3 Finding my passion and doing something about it
So, to start doing some stuff towards these three things. At the end of the session I said let’s summarise and she wrote a heap of stuff down which was great. This is the list in no particular order:
1 Use Bach Flower Rescue remedy when I’m feeling I might need it
2 Set aside 30 minutes a day for ME time
3 Ask people for help with looking after Jaycee Junior (small steps)
4 Get some meditation/relaxation CDs and use them
5 Visualise a happy/nurturing relationship with a man
6 Examine the men I have chosen in my life and see:
– what appeals and what doesn’t
– what is destructive
– why am I attracted to them
– how can I foster those qualities in myself
7 Keep a PMT/dream journal
8 Start a body dialogue regarding guilt
– find a quiet space to relax
– bring in the guilt, where does it sit in my body
– have a conversation with it
– write it down
9 Get the Woman’s Comfort book
10 Investigate some women’s healing circles
I don’t know how I will go with things like the body dialogue but I’m willing to give it a go. And I shall be going out after I finish this to get the Woman’s Comfort book.
Update: Had to order The Woman’s Comfort book and will be waiting around three weeks for its delivery.
Oh, and found this article on A List Apart website which I want to refer back to more often.
