A friend is looking after my son. She had him last night and for most of the day today. This is so rare for me to get time out like this when it’s not work related, and it’s bloody great.
I went out last night with a group of friends into the city. I don’t know where everyone else was last night but there weren’t many people in Adelaide. The weather was really nice. It was the first time I’ve been out at night for a while now without a winter coat. I would have thought this alone would have made people want to venture out. Perhaps everyone’s still in winter hibernation mode.
I had a pretty enjoyable night and got to bed about 2.30 this morning and slept in until 8.30 which I hardly ever do.
I’m doing some homework for my course today without feeling guilty that I’m occupying my son with an electronic babysitter. I also had a 50 minute conversation with an interstate friend and it was fabulous to do so without interruptions.
I would have liked to spend today going and sitting in a cafe either with a friend or by myself and sitting there enjoying watching the world go by without looking out for a little person, and reading the paper uninterrupted, but I haven’t even ventured out the house today. And that’s ok.
jeanie says
Yay – a bit like a holiday!!! How cool.
dave says
it was a rather long net stumble to your blog, so i won’t bother detailing 🙂
this post really resonated with me.
I don’t have kids and i don’t have time, and i am endlessly admiring of those who do have kids and what they achieve, regardless of whether they have time for themselves or not.
i played adoptive uncle at a 12yo’s birthday party at a Laser Tag place the other night, and just had to tell the 31yo busy professional mother who had laid on all the party food, decorations, a massive home-made cake, pass-the-parcel and party bags… just how awesome a mum she obviously is.
I know 90% of that work would have been done after 10pm, after little miss was in bed, after a coffee or three and when she should really have been in bed herself preparing for another day of meetings and wheelings and dealings. Definitely after i’m generally in bed, tired from my own corporate day and hoping to find energy for another.
Hats off to mothers, especially sole parents. Good on you for enjoying some well deserved you-time.
Jen says
Dave, what a lovely comment. Thanks. It’s really nice to have someone recognise that it’s hard yakka being a parent, and a sole parent at that. And good on you for telling that mum she’s awesome.
If you ever do have kids, then you’ll make the time as priorities shift a lot.