Comments on: My boy http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html My photo a day project, and other life stuff. Wed, 23 May 2012 09:03:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jen http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html/comment-page-1#comment-4185 Jen Wed, 10 Sep 2008 07:40:05 +0000 http://semanticallydriven.com/?p=919#comment-4185 Hazel, I'm taking steps to modify his behaviour both at school and at home. I'm feeling a lot better about the school now as they seem motivated to help. I met with the deputy principal recently and we've identified some things that they can do at the school to help him learn self-confidence and social skills. I'm also taking him to a psychologist who's been really good. I'm feeling a heck of a lot more positive than I did when I wrote this post. Hazel, I’m taking steps to modify his behaviour both at school and at home. I’m feeling a lot better about the school now as they seem motivated to help. I met with the deputy principal recently and we’ve identified some things that they can do at the school to help him learn self-confidence and social skills. I’m also taking him to a psychologist who’s been really good. I’m feeling a heck of a lot more positive than I did when I wrote this post.

]]> By: Hazel http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html/comment-page-1#comment-4147 Hazel Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:32:24 +0000 http://semanticallydriven.com/?p=919#comment-4147 I wish I could suggest some sort of solution for you. I think it's so hard for a single parent to bring up a child of the opposite gender (it's usually mothers bringing up boys) because we have no experience of what it's like to be a boy. He looks like a real angel and I know that looks often belie the reality -- just one of those cheeky smiles and he can get away with almost anything until he runs up against the hard place in school. I agree that changing school is probably not the answer. It's JJ's behaviour that is the problem and although it may be his way of reacting against the particular school there's no saying that he wouldn't do it again. Is there a close male relative or friend who could take some of the heat out of it for you by having a word or two? I wish I could suggest some sort of solution for you. I think it’s so hard for a single parent to bring up a child of the opposite gender (it’s usually mothers bringing up boys) because we have no experience of what it’s like to be a boy. He looks like a real angel and I know that looks often belie the reality — just one of those cheeky smiles and he can get away with almost anything until he runs up against the hard place in school.
I agree that changing school is probably not the answer. It’s JJ’s behaviour that is the problem and although it may be his way of reacting against the particular school there’s no saying that he wouldn’t do it again.
Is there a close male relative or friend who could take some of the heat out of it for you by having a word or two?

]]> By: Jen http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html/comment-page-1#comment-4133 Jen Fri, 05 Sep 2008 04:19:40 +0000 http://semanticallydriven.com/?p=919#comment-4133 Thanks Ms Single Mama. I shall look out for that one. Yes, he is gorgeous. Thank you. Thanks Ms Single Mama. I shall look out for that one. Yes, he is gorgeous. Thank you.

]]> By: Ms. Single Mama http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html/comment-page-1#comment-4131 Ms. Single Mama Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:12:38 +0000 http://semanticallydriven.com/?p=919#comment-4131 There's a fantastic documentary on raising boys - and how some of them react when schools try to inhibit their natural behaviors. It's called "Raising Cain" I believe there a book as well. I hope that helps. And he is SO gorgeous. There’s a fantastic documentary on raising boys – and how some of them react when schools try to inhibit their natural behaviors.

It’s called “Raising Cain” I believe there a book as well.

I hope that helps. And he is SO gorgeous.

]]> By: Jen http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html/comment-page-1#comment-4036 Jen Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:42:11 +0000 http://semanticallydriven.com/?p=919#comment-4036 Education about behaviour is the key I think. I'm reluctant to change schools and it will be a last resort. I want to work with his current school to sort things out. We'll see ey? Education about behaviour is the key I think. I’m reluctant to change schools and it will be a last resort. I want to work with his current school to sort things out. We’ll see ey?

]]> By: PlanningQueen http://semanticallydriven.com/2008/08/my_boy.html/comment-page-1#comment-4035 PlanningQueen Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:05:23 +0000 http://semanticallydriven.com/?p=919#comment-4035 Sorry he (and therefore you) are having a hard time. I wrote about discipline recently and how at its core it is about teaching children considerate behaviour, not punishment for when they get things wrong. It is difficult to change schools, but maybe you need a school that has a different approach to discipline? I hope it gets better for you. Sorry he (and therefore you) are having a hard time. I wrote about discipline recently and how at its core it is about teaching children considerate behaviour, not punishment for when they get things wrong. It is difficult to change schools, but maybe you need a school that has a different approach to discipline? I hope it gets better for you.

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