Comments on: So it finally sank in that I was pregnant

By: Becky

Becky — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 13:56:52 +0000

Totally awesome!!!!

~Becky

By: jen

jen — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 15:08:26 +0000

The link in my earlier comment had a naughty character in it which is why it doesn't work. Try http://www.semanticallydriven.com/2005/08/remember_when.html I've fixed the incorrect URL in the earlier comment!

By: Michelle at Scribbit

Michelle at Scribbit — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 14:16:20 +0000

I couldn’t get the link to work for me, getting an error page and URL not found. I’ll check it a little later, maybe it’s a problem on my end.

By: jen

jen — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 11:09:42 +0000

Michelle, you're not being nosy or judgemental. If I thought people were going to judge me on this I wouldn't have posted my story. As for not keeping the baby? It crossed my mind ever so briefly. There's a bit more about it here http://www.semanticallydriven.com/2005/08/remember_when.html

By: jen

jen — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 21:53:55 +0000

Michelle, you’re not being nosy or judgemental. If I thought people were going to judge me on this I wouldn’t have posted my story. As for not keeping the baby? It crossed my mind ever so briefly. There’s a bit more about it here (http://www.semanticallydriven.com/2005/08/remember_when.html).

By: Michelle at Scribbit

Michelle at Scribbit — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 16:26:06 +0000

I have a question and I’m worried that it may sound too nosy or even judgmental but I guess with blogging you can get a little nosier.

You talk as if you never considered not keeping the baby. I’ve always thought that if that were to happen to me I’d give the baby up and go on with my life. Was this something you considered? I mean I don’t want to imply that you should have, I can see your love for your son, but with that kind of a panic attack setting in and worrying about how your life will change it seems the obvious thing to at least consider.

Sorry if I’m being too prying but I was curious.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 13:56:05 +0000

I just stumbled across your blog as I was surfing through the internet and I had to leave a comment on it!
It’s comforting to hear that I’m not the only single mother out there (obviously, lol) even if it feels like it at times, and that there are other people out there that have the same feelings.

LoL I’m sure it sounds silly, but thank you for posting it.
I’m glad it found it’s way to me.

By: jen

jen — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 13:39:51 +0000

To answer your question Jeanie, other people’s attitudes toward me as a single mum have been mostly fine. That is I when I told people I was pregnant I didn’t feel any judgement at all. Once people got over the shock they were really cool about it, surprisingly so I felt because I had expected different attitudes.

However, now that my son is at school and has had some behavioural problems while settling in there I’ve experienced some, what I feel to be, attitude. The first question people ask is what is the home situation and I can see their brains ticking over when I say I’m the sole parent.

I don’t let this get to me too much though because I can’t change this situation and I feel I’m doing a pretty damn good job considering.

By: jeanie

jeanie — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 13:24:55 +0000

Thanks J – although my ex was with me throughout the pregnancy, I have many friends who have also gone through this experience as you did – without a great deal of support, in some instances especially from the father.

How have you found other people’s attitudes to you as a “single mother”? I only ask as I felt it quite keenly for a few years but that may have also been of the heightened emotional rollercoaster I was on during those years, whereas I have some friends where it is water off a ducks back to the extent that they do not even notice its presence.